Triticum Turgidum

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I am a beauty-loving ambidextrous higher-order primate who learned transcendental meditation at 7, statistical analysis at 23, tap dancing at 30, and piano at 35. I tolerate gluten, lactose, and differences of opinion, but not abuse. Or beets.

Saturday, July 01, 2006

Know Thyself

Have you ever come across a quote or passage that perfectly describes your character or perspective or modus operandi, some statement or set of statements whose spot-on application to your life and unique circumstances is all the more uncanny given how little you have in common with the source?

I was reading Business Week today and came across this quote from Pete Carroll, head football coach at USC, describing his "favorite mistake," which was accepting what would be a short-lived coaching position for the New England Patriots instead of a less challenging position with the St. Louis Rams:

"I thought I could handle anything... I felt like, Yeah, this'll be good... I'll win them over. My instincts--to a fault--are always to go to the high-pressure opportunity. I didn't really assess the situation clearly enough. I've learned to really weigh things and not be so driven by my gut. Sometimes it gets us in trouble, that feeling that you can handle anything. You have to dig deeply and not just be emotionally driven into a situation. Great competitors sometimes fall prey to their own drive to see what they can endure."

My friend Barbara recently asked her blog's readers whether and how they manage to get in the way of themselves. I'd have to say that Mr. Carroll's quote pretty much sums it up for me, especially the last sentence. I went into parenthood with that attitude, and more than any of the difficulties associated with a new baby (recovery from the birth, sleep deprivation, etc.), it's that attitude that's laid me low. If my life were a Hollywood movie, all of my struggles would be rewarded in the end with glory. The ends would justify the means. But life isn't a Hollywood movie, and people who engage in self-flagellation just end up with scars. Knowing yourself and your own vulnerabilities--even if that requires admitting that you aren't superhuman--is a good thing.


Blogger katiedid said...

I really like this post, K. I kind of need to suck it in and think on it for a while.

2:14 AM, July 02, 2006  
Blogger mireille said...

I agree with Katie. There's a lot here. xoxo

6:35 PM, July 02, 2006  
Blogger Parisjasmal said...

Love this post K. I too am my own worst enemy most of the time. I think too much and too hard, and make things WAY too difficult most of the time.

As women, sometimes we are not encouraged to know ourselves and make our descisions accordingly. That is selfish. We are not encouraged to be strong and smart and brave. Doing so makes us "too proud" or "self centered". We are expected to do what society thinks we should do---which has NEVER been my way of thinking. I always seem to go against the grain.
But in the end I usually feel being true to myself (and kind to others) is the ONLY way to happiness.

Thanks again for this post.

2:24 PM, July 03, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Too much thinking. *turns mind off*

Hi, K! Drop me a line, would love to hear from you (that's my lazy way of saying you email first because all of my fingers suddenly spasmed and I can't type).


4:29 AM, July 07, 2006  
Blogger BarbaraFromCalifornia said...


It is so true how we can become our own worst enemy. Sometimes, it is a result of our expectations we have for ourselves, and then there are those we think that others have for us. Either way, we end up feeling less than. As I have aged, I have learned to just do the very best I can. Sometimes, that means I can do a great job, other times, not so wonderful, and then there are the losey and/or poor outcomes. Either way, when I accept myself for who and what I am, that is the best outcome possible.

And if it means anything, I think you are an awesome human being, a good friend, and I know a wonderful mother.

Blessings to you and your family.

9:04 PM, July 07, 2006  

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