Triticum Turgidum

Lying Dormant and Waiting to Bloom Since 2005

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Location: The Prairie, Illinois, United States

I am a beauty-loving ambidextrous higher-order primate who learned transcendental meditation at 7, statistical analysis at 23, tap dancing at 30, and piano at 35. I tolerate gluten, lactose, and differences of opinion, but not abuse. Or beets.

Wednesday, July 18, 2007

Good Girl

I Photoshopped this picture to make it look as though Flea has a halo. In truth, she has no such thing, literally or metaphorically. She's a lover of mischief.

Case in point: yesterday when my back was turned she climbed on the couch and stood up. She knows she's not supposed to stand on the furniture. Now, an ordinary toddler routinely forgets and breaks the rules, or fails to internalize them in the first place, but Flea knows the rules, breaks them wilfully, and gets great satisfaction out of showing me. All was quiet, so I turned around to check on her, and found her standing there, unmoving, a big grin on her face, just waiting for me to see her and say, "Fia, SIT DOWN PLEASE." It was clear that she was just going to stand quietly until I saw her. In other words, she wasn't standing because she wanted to stand, she was standing because she wanted to stand because I told her not to stand.

Do we really get such satisfaction out of disobedience so early in life? As a parent I find this need to establish separateness both exasperating and exhilarating, as though the human drive to establish boundaries--"YOU end there, I start HERE"--is inborn and therefore good and right. I want my kid to define herself as an individual. At the same time, I want her skull to remain intact and my furniture footprint-free. So whenever she asserts her independence in this manner I do my best to keep my expression neutral while I smile inwardly and think--because I too am rebellious and parents are not supposed to say it out loud--good girl.


Blogger NowSmellThis said...

Wow, time flies...I simply can't believe how big she is!

Over here at my house, we are still walking that fine line between asserting independence and the early signs of oppositional defiance disorder, LOL -- so wishing you luck :-)

6:22 PM, July 18, 2007  
Blogger Christine said...

She is so, so cute! Halo or no.

10:12 AM, July 19, 2007  
Blogger Parisjasmal said...

How interesting you see it the way you do. Most people would just see it as disobedience. At least that is what I have observed--me not being a parent myself. I agree with you. She is testing the boundaries of where you end and she begins. That is a VERY hard boundary to see clearly sometimes.

What a smart and gorgeous little lady!


2:51 PM, July 20, 2007  

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